How about this? The first date isn't actually a date. What a concept!
Think of it more as a meeting to see if you actually enjoy each others company enough to have it lead to an actual date.
I never consider the first date, a date. I don't get nervous and why? Because I don't care. I don't care what the other person will think of me for being me. I don't care if the other person doesn't want to see me again because I don't consider myself actually being on a date. I don't sit and fret over what we will do, or where we will go, or what I'll wear.
In my opinion, there are a few first date rules that everyone should follow:
Rule 1: Location, location, location...means nothing - It shouldn't be about what you're doing, but rather that you're doing something together. A first date is an opportunity to talk and get to know one another to see if you want to meet again. If she's more hung up on what you two are going to do, or where you're going to take her, I suggest you take her nowhere. For the money you may spend, you could be out with guys finding a "date" for free.
Rule 2: Dark rooms aren't cool - A movie is always a bad choice. The only time you should take your date to a movie is if you both have an interest in a subject area. Maybe you both like foreign films, great, go. But have plans afterward so you can at least talk. If you're taking her to the latest Will Farrell movie as a conversation starter for later, you probably shouldn't be meeting one another in the first place.
Rule 3: Skip the razzle dazzle - Guys, don't try to dazzle her by planning something extravagant. Don't even go out of your way. A first date should have a time limit, no more than hour just in case things aren't going as planned. Keep it simple. A cup of coffee and a walk is always a great first date. It relieves any pressure from having to entertain each other, but you're not stuck staring face-to-face the entire time. Creativity may go a long way, but keep creativity to a minimum. A walk through a bookstore together will inspire hours of conversation and give you a glimpse into a person by what they pick up.
Rule 4: Don't break the bank - If your simple first date is running up your bill, then you've just been had. Look, a first date is like an investment. You wouldn't gamble on the stock market by investing everything you have before doing your research, would you? No. Then why shell out big bucks on someone you may never see again. Keeping it simple means keeping it cheap. Oh, and by the way, guys, you should be paying for the first date.
Rule 5: Beat her to the callback - So you go out, have a great time and then what. You want to see her again, but you're not sure if she wants to see you. Beat her to the punch and tell her you had a great time. Tell her you'd like to do this again some time and if she is interested, to stay in touch. You've clearly laid out your intent and then, you can stop worrying about whether she wants to or not.
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