The WRONG time to date

While having coffee with fetish girl today, she said something that seemed somewhat fitting with this post; that December 6 is that day that most people break up. There is no confirmed stat to support this, but a quick Google search shows that December is perhaps the month that most of them will happen in. 

Early December is the best time to end a relationship, if you must, with Christmas around the corner. If it doesn't happen by then, New Year's is upon us and then shortly after, Valentine's Day. If it doesn't happen early on, the right time to minimize the most emotional impact doesn't present itself until March.

This post isn't about when to break up with someone. It's about the WRONG time to date. These two things are connected. They fall within the same period.

First off, the best relationships just happen and they often do when you don't expect it. Although many of us want to find the "one" we often go into the dating world with a mission. When you go into it blind without looking for anything, that is when you're going to meet someone that you connect with.

If you're anything like me, you're the type of person who would rather see 10 people at once, narrowing it down to just one, instead of focusing all your energy on one person up front. It seems more guys than girls have the ability to do this, but that's a post for another time.

Despite your dating style, if you're one of those people who are "actively looking" for a relationship, or are just looking to casually date until you meet someone you want to focus on, there are two times throughout the year that you should watch who and when you date. 

The first is mid-November to mid-February. The holiday season seems to begin earlier and earlier every year. By mid-November stores are preparing for Christmas and the buzz is on. For men, this is the time of year that they want to be careful how involved they become with a girl that they have just met. While spending the holidays alone may suck for anyone, it always seems that women are more affected by being single this time of year. 


It's not difficult to find a single girl who wants a boyfriend for Christmas. The older they get, the more they want it. When friends and family are settled down, for the single lady (and man) Christmas can be one of the loneliest times.

Lumped in there is New Years and then Valentines Day. Once you're in, be prepared to be in for the long haul. Getting out won't be easy, unless it's just a seasonal fling. 

While you might be thinking: "Really? I could have told you that." There is another time of year that can be equally as entrapping.

Guys, you should also be careful of the months April, May and June. As the long dark days of winter begin to fade, the thoughts of summer fun slowly take shape. Although not as risky as the triple threat season, the summer months are filled with happy-go-lucky couples. For many, seeing couples hand in hand enjoying their summer fun is just as gag-me-with-a-spoon-tastic as watching couples over the holidays. 

So what's the point of this post? To tell you things that you may already know? No, not in the least. It's to tell you what many of us know but never take heed of, including this guy. 

I'm not saying don't date during this time, just date with a little bit of caution. A holiday romance or a spring fling is most often just that. When you're caught up in the moment - or when someone else is caught up in the moment - you might realize that the moment is all you two really have.

For @whatshesaidgoes' take on things, click here for her post.